When Worlds Collide: Close Encounters of the Facebook Kind

It was inevitable, I know.  The two worlds I had hoped would never meet finally collided...



MY EX HUSBAND AND FACEBOOK



I suppose I shouldn't be surprised.  After all, just about everyone on the planet has a Facebook account.  I guess I was just hoping it would be the one place I would never see him.  And now, as all of my friends (including my sister...wait, what?) have accepted friend requests from him I have to see his face and name Every. Single. Day.  And, I don't want to.  And, no, I will not apologize for that remark.

As for my sister accepting my ex's friend request.  She texted me to tell me that he had sent it to her and then later that day texted me to ask me what she should do.  I told her she could handle it however she wanted.  My response to her was obviously a mistake.  I was under the impression that knowing everything that had happened surrounding the reasons for my divorce my sister would graciously decline the request.  Apparently, I don't know my sister very well.  She accepted it.  She couldn't stand the man when he was putting me through hell, but now she wants to be "friends" with him on Facebook?  Call me overly emotional, but it made me cry.  Where's your damn family loyalty, dear sister of mine?

As friend after friend accepts his request, I silently scream at my computer screen.  DON'T YOU PEOPLE KNOW WHAT THIS PERSON HAS DONE?  Many of them probably don't and are genuinely glad to see him on Facebook.  Some probably do and are curious to see what he's up to.  I would never actually say anything to any of them out of malice.  If anyone ever asks, I just tell them that things didn't work out.  You can always tell who already knows anyway; they give you "the look" (Of course, if you're a close personal friend I've probably told you the story so many times you want to vomit...and for that I do apologize).

My Facebook page is now on lockdown or at least as close as you can come to it with Facebook.  The ex can't see anything I don't want him to see.  And, honestly, he may not even be remotely interested.  I'm going to help it stay that way, though, and keep everything hidden. 

So, remember, although it's a big world out there your world and the world of someone you're no longer interested in being connected to may one day collide.  Don't say you weren't warned.

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